Siblings
5 Sep
Don’t have them, don’t understand the concept. I’ve spent this weekend with his little sister and it was great. We went out drinking, eating, we ended up at a klezmer music concert (great music, btw!) and, all in all, we had a great time together, just as it happened with his twin sister in Paris.
But the more I think about this brother-sister relationship, the more I don’t understand it. I know it’s some sort of parent-child thing, only cooler, but it still puzzles me. I am an only child and I was raised like one: I got to eat the whole bar of chocolate, I got to play with all the toys, I was grounded for every stupid thing I did. I have no idea what it means to share a room with someone, to take someone’s side out of brotherly care etc. I don’t know what it means to worry about someone who is travelling by plane and I have no idea how it feels to spend time with your siblings after months of being apart.
Yes, I have a family and, yes, I care about *almost* all of its members but except for my parents I don’t feel like there is any special bond connecting me to them. I have learned to accept them the way they are but I still judge them from time to time (not out loud, though) and we see each other for Christmas, Easter and a couple of times during the summer holiday. No big love between us, no real bonds.
I don’t regret not having siblings – hell, I’m glad I’m alone, spoiled and egotistic but sometimes I would like to know how it feels to care for someone not because you are great friends or because they are your parents but because you’ve shared so many things together, so many memories, because they were grounded because of you or because they wanted to save you, because you were fighting over the same bar of chocolate.
Siblings – strange creatures 
My sister almost broke her nose because of me when we were little; she still has the mark. And it hasn’t been worry-free either (I thought on multiple occasions about tying her to the heater so she wouldn’t go out with dubious people as a teen :)) ) but I can’t imagine myself without her. It sounds soppy but oh, well. :P I still think I would’ve turned out a decent human without her romping around but look at all the added experience I can access when I have kids of my own. :D
I don’t have any neither so I don’t really know, but it must be strange to have someone sharing exactly your own live and memories….
i like that layout sweety, … I am since weeks outdoor in Russia, stinking and dirty, but sooooo happy. i hope to meet you very soon. Love Ralf
Great layout! well, this post made me realize what a wonderful world is a world with sisters :D except for the part in which you really really want that chocolate bar only for yourself. But you know, when you have it you just wish to share it with someone.
don’t have ”it” either. and never felt the need. it was and still is strange when people who have siblings ask me if i wanted a brother or a sister and when i say ”no” they act very surprised. such encounters end with me secretly thinking they are weak because they can’t imagine themselves having lived and managed without brothers or sisters and them probably feeling sorry for me, oh, the poor kid had to grow up all alone and bored. and they shouldn’t feel sorry, because i have a mindset close to that of a baby eagle who is trying to push his brother or sister out of the nest :D
I have a younger sister; when we were kids we used to fight a lot and i was quite over protective. it took me a long time to accept her as an individual, and let her be. our relationship got better when i moved out for the first time, and now, when i moved to another city, it’s even better :D
form the ‘caring’ point of view instead of a just a mum and dad it’s mum, dad and sis and instead of having just 2 people who care and worry about you unconditionally i have 3 :)
@Ralu: I think it’s easier not to be able to imagine yourself without someone than with someone
That’s why I can’t do it.
@Gracie: Yes, the exact same memories but from a different point of view
@ralf: wow, that’s great news! We’re expecting you, crazy German!
Lots of hugs!!!
@hiacint: well, not always
@morbo: awww, that’s so mean!
Thank God, you don’t have siblings!
@Yuki: the same thing happened with me and my parents: the moment I move to Bucharest our relationship improved immensely. I guess in some cases it’s true what they say: distance makes the heart grow fonder
Yes! I know what you mean! I am an only child too!! And yes, my relationship with my mother has drastically improved once i moved to the other side of the world! go figure …